Carl Gustav Jung claims that every man is arachetypically attracted to something in women, and he called this Anima.
Analogously there would be that with women, and that is called Animus.
(In homosexual couples, one does the active, “male” part, one the passive, “female”.)
Women who overidentified with what they liked in men would become domineering, resistant to advice, and as unteachable as a blind cat. “Now I know why the German chancellor is the way she is.”